Author: Ian

  • Condom Myths and Facts: Separating Truth from Fiction

    purple condom

    Let’s set the record straight on condoms. There’s a lot of confusion out there, and myths get tossed around like confetti. Here’s what’s true, what’s false, and what’s just plain weird.

    Myth #1: Condoms Break All the Time

    False! If used correctly, condoms are super reliable. Most breaks happen because of mistakes—like using expired condoms, not enough lube, or incorrect size. The fix? Use the right size, check expiration dates, and add a little water-based lube.

    Myth #2: Condoms Are Only for Preventing Pregnancy

    Nope! Condoms protect against STIs too, including HIV. Even if you’re on birth control, condoms are a good backup and the best defense against infections.

    Myth #3: Two Condoms Are Better Than One

    Definitely not. Doubling up on condoms can actually cause more friction, which increases the chance of breakage. Stick to one good-quality condom.

    Myth #4: Condoms Kill the Mood

    Not true! With so many different options—thin, ribbed, flavored, textured—there’s something for everyone. Add some lube, find the right fit, and condoms can actually make things better.

    Myth #5: You Don’t Need Condoms for Oral Sex

    False. STIs can spread through oral sex too. Flavored condoms are designed for this, and using them keeps things safe without ruining the experience.

    At the end of the day, condoms are about protection and peace of mind. Knowing the facts will keep you safer and way less stressed.

  • Free condom samples

    Free condom samples

    [caption id="attachment_2451" align="alignright" width="300"]Image from UndercoverCondoms.com Image from UndercoverCondoms.com[/caption] Finding a great condom is best done through trial & error. But that can get expensive. Here, we offer sources to ease those test runs- Free Condom Offer Links. The internet has bred so much competition among condom manufacturers, thus leading to many suppliers offering free condom sample packs in the hope that you will come back for more. Flavors, sizes, shapes- you might as well try them all, so here is a list of places in North America that we found to get free condoms. Lucky Bloke: TheyFit Condoms (UK) Follow them on twitter @TheyFitCondoms and check out their website for latest offers. Beyond Seven: They ask you to fill out a survey first, but it is a totally free sample of a condom in their range. Click here to go to their form. Relax Condoms I think these are only available in Canada as they are Licensed by Health Canada. Anyway, they will send you a completely free sample. Click here for more. NYC Condom Residents of NYC can get free male and female condoms and lubricants by visiting various establishments in the city or calling 311. Organizations can order online here. Condom USA They offer a range of Durex and Japanese condom 10 packs for free, but you have to pay for delivery, unless you order other stuff with them. Delivery is typically around $5, which is still cheaper than buying a 10 pack from the pharmacy. Click here. Often you can also get free condoms at Planned Parenthood. See their website for more details. This list is by all means not a full comprehensive list and we will be looking at expanding it whenever we find a new way to get condoms for free. Please let us know of any free condom programs, or if any of the links above no longer work. Thanks for reading.

  • LIFESTYLES Condom Size Chart

    LIFESTYLES Condom Size Chart

    The dimensions in this chart are from our own store bought measurements, as well as from Lucky Bloke and Undercover Condoms.  To read more about Lifestyles company (also known as “Mates” in Europe, check out their profile summary.

    If you don’t feel like scrolling through lists, try our new search tool, the Condom Calculator.

    Measurement Tip:

    The average condom length is 7.5″/190.5mm.  Girth is important (see our guide for measuring penis).  The average condom base width is between 50.8mm – 53mm (width is measured by the condom lying flat; it is not the circumference). To understand if your girth fits condom width simply divide your penis circumference by 2.25 (How did we get this number?  Read here).

    Preferences will vary, but our general rule is if you measure less than 4.8 inches (approx 121mm) in girth, go with a snugger fit.  Fit you are wider than 5.15 inches (130mm), select XL or KYGN.  Trojans and Durex XL sizes tend to be slightly larger than Lifestyles.

    (Sizes may vary by a few millimeters. Links to external sites may be affiliate links and could earn us a small commission)

    Snug Fit/ LATEX

    Lifestyles Snugger Fit

    Slightly smaller width and length than regular sizes
    Unique shape hugs better around shaft
    Specially lubricated for natural feeling
    Snugger fit is the smallest condom available on the market, along with Caution Wear Iron Grip condoms.
    Base width: 1.9”/ 48mm
    Length: 6.7”/170mm

    Lifestyles 3SUM

    Extra ribbed, ultra studded, uniquely shaped!
    Wide shaft, contoured at head for his pleasure
    Lubricated for maximum pleasure and glide
    Base width: 1.9”/ 50mm
    Length: 6.7”/170mm

    Regular/NON-LATEX (Polyisoprene)

    SKYN Original

    Image from UnderCover Condoms
    Image from UnderCover Condoms

    Strong as latex but with softer more flexible material, making them extremely comfortable for skin-to-skin feel.
    Ideal for people with latex allergy or sensitivity
    Base width: 2.08”/53mm
    Length: 7.5”/190mm

    SKYN Extra Lubricated

    Same advantages of non-latex with long-lasting UltraSilkyTM Lubrication for smooth skin-to-skin experience.
    Reservoir tip for extra safety and comfort
    Base width: 2.1”/53mm
    Length: 7.5”/190mm

    Regular/Sensitivity/LATEX

    Lifestyles THYN

    Lifestyles’ thinnest condom with most popular contoured shape that widens up the shaft for comfort.
    21% thinner than standard Lifestyles latex condom.
    Natural, clear color
    Low latex scent
    Base width: 2.1”/53mm
    Length: 7.8”/198mm

    Lifestyles Ultra Sensitive

    The original thin condom, thinner than their Ultra Thin condom!
    Top rated by Undercover Condoms, Condom Depot, Live Strong and 2009 Consumer Report ShopSmart Magazine.
    Base width: 2.0”/52mm
    Length: 7.5”/190mm

    Lifestyles Ultra Thin

    Micro-thin technology with unique easy to roll on shape. Check out our personal review on this one.
    Base width: 2.1″/53mm
    Length: 7.6″/193mm

    Ultra Sensitive with Spermicide

    Lubricated with spermicide to decrease risk of pregnancy
    Spermicide is not for more-than-once-a-day vaginal or rectal use
    Base width: 2.1”/53mm
    Length: 7.5”/190mm

    STYLES Sensitive Collection

    Contains THYN- SKYN- and Ultra Sensitive

     Lifestyles Ultra Lube PLUS

    Lubricated inside and out with UltraGlide Lubricant TM
    Base width: 2.1”/53mm
    Length: 7.5”/190mm

    Lifestyles Pleasure Shape Condom

    Exclusive large tip for more head room
    Stimulates most sensitive areas for both partners
    Base width: 2.08”/52mm
    Length: 7.5”/190mm

    LifeStyles Turbo

    Made with dual action ExciteGel lubricant
    Warming and tingling inside and outside for both partners
    Base width: 2.1″/ 53mm
    Length: 7.5″/ 190mm

    Regular/Textured/LATEX

    WYLDLifestyles THRYLL

    Ultra studded condom with over 100 raised rubber studs
    Long-lasting UltraGlide Lubricant TM extends pleasure
    Classis straight shape
    Base width: 2.08”/53mm
    Length: 7.6”/190mm

    Lifestyles WYLD

    Outer ribbed texture made from premium latex
    Larger head shape
    Long-lasting UltraGlide lubricant TM
    Base width: 2.08”/53mm
    Length: 7.5”/190mm

    Lifestyles Pleasure Ribbed Condom

    Ribbed for ultimate stimulation
    Specially lubricated
    Low latex scent
    Base width: 2.1”/53mm
    Length: 7.5”/190mm

    Lifestyles Fun Bumps

    Recently made it on the top ten condom list on Queerty Mag
    Intense blue flavor and light mint flavor
    Base width: 2.2″/56mm
    Length: 7.8″/200mm

    LARGE/ non-latex (polyisoprene)

    SKYN Large

    First ever large-sized polyisoprene condom!
    Strong as latex but with softer more flexible material, making them extremely comfortable for skin-to-skin feel.
    Ideal for people with latex allergy or sensitivity
    Base width: 2.2”/56mm
    Length: 7.8”/200mm

    LARGE /Latex

    Lifestyles KYNG

    Wider and longer than regular Lifestyles condoms
    Base width: 2.2”/56mm
    Length: 7.8”/200mm
    Head width: 2.2″

    LifeStyles KYNG Blue Box

    Large condom with a tapered fit for secure fit.
    Base width: 2.2″/ 56mm
    Length: 7.8″/ 200mm

    STYLES Premium Large Collection

    Features an assortment of KYNG Gold –  KYNG Smooth – and KYNG Ribbed.
    Base width: 2.2”/56mm
    Length: 7.8”/200mm

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    The Legal Stuff: Age of consent and medical advice

    The size charts are made for you to consult and hopefully find the brand that suits within your size range and needs.  If you cannot find the answer to your question, just ask.  But please be aware that we do not condone sexual activity of under-age males and females in state or country.  Also, we are not medical professionals.  We offer opinions from personal experience and research.  Professional advice should always be sought.

    Sexual health resources we recommend for young people include Scarleteen and Bish Training. For all ages Planned Parenthood and Sexperience channel are highly recommended.

     

  • Condom Sizing

    Condom Sizing

    The Importance and How-To of Condom Sizing

    If you don’t pay attention to condom size, the little rubber can be rendered useless and result in the spread of infection or pregnancy. Slippage during use is very common because many guys are putting on the wrong size.  A condom should fit snug and stay in place- but of course, not so sung that it is painful!  Condom size varies from brand to brand and also from texture to shape, so it also pays to test as many as you can over a period of time before you settle on one specific condom (if ever!).

    How do you work out condom sizing?

    The first thing you need to work out is your penis size. From there you have a definite size guideline to buy condoms and you reduce the risk of wasting money.

    Published with permission from thebadchemicals.com
    Published with permission from thebadchemicals.com

    How do I measure my penis?

    Measuring your penis is easy but you have to do it right.  You need either a soft measuring tape or a piece of string and a ruler to measure the string against. First you need to measure the length of your ERECT penis. Put the measuring tape or string at the very base of your penis and measure up to the very tip making sure it’s central and straight. Jot that length down.

    Then you need the circumference. This is very important as done by measuring all the way around your penis at the mid-point of the shaft. At this stage, you could also measure the circumference at the head (the widest part).

    Condom Size Guidelines

    Now to get the correct size you can follow these general guidelines. To understand what condom width fits, divide your penis circumference by 2.25. How did we get this number? This post explains our formula and research.

    According to a recent study by the Kinsey Institute, most male condoms in North America are made to fit the “average” guy who measures 5.57″ long and 4.8″ girth. Thus, size “regular” condoms tend to be 7.5″ long and 2.0-2.2 base width. Base width is the condom lying flat.  It is not the circumference.

    Generally, if you measure less than 4.8 inches in girth, go with snugger fit condoms.  If you are thicker than 5.2 inches go with larger condoms.  For more suggestions and details, for example on shape and material, go to our post titled What Condom Size Am I? (can you tell we get this question a lot?).

    You can also head over to our Condom Calculator and view the dimensions of over 100 condoms.  We also have an ill-fitting solutions chart that offers suggestions to specific condom fit problems. Finally, for guidelines converting penis girth to proper condom width, view the table in this post.

  • Non-Latex Condom & Dam Size Chart

    Non-Latex Condom & Dam Size Chart

    banana measure tapeThe world of non-latex condoms is a mysterious one. There aren’t many options. In another post we confirm that there is no such thing as flavored non-latex barriers. Also, most manufacturers do not make “special” sizes for non-latex. By special, I mean anything smaller or larger than 2.1″/53mm base wide and 7.5″/190mm long. Some brands offer sizing information on their packaging, such as Lifestyles’ SKYN and Glyde. But most remain vague.

    Each of our size guides offers non-latex options (see our main condom chart or try our condom size calculator for a quicker search). We have consolidated that information into this post to make dimensions easier to find.  This chart is organized by “Regular” and “Large”. There is no “small” or “snug” size non-latex.  Scroll to the bottom for female condoms (sometimes called “internal condoms”) and sex dams.

    Read more about the differences between polyisoprene and polyurethane.

    (Some external links may be affiliate links that earn us a small commission but this information is not sponsored by any company.  All opinions and advice are our own).

    Non-Latex Regular

    Trojan Supra BareSkin
    Made of polyurethane. Trojan’s only non-latex male condom.
    Classic straignt shape
    Base width: 2.1″/53mm
    Length: 7.9″ /200mm

    LifeStyles Original SKYN and LifeStyles Skyn Extra Lubricated
    Polyisoprene. Praised as the first to make the market- the rest followed.
    Base width: 2.1″/53mm
    Length: 7.5″/190mm

    Non-Latex Large

    LifeStyles’ SKYN Large

    This is the first ever LARGE polyisoprene condom.
    It’s wider than most large condoms but not quite as long.  Ideal for thicker than average men.
    Base width: 2.2″/56mm
    Length: 7.8″/200mm

    Female Condoms

    FC2 Female Condom
    Latex free, made of nitrile synthetic rubber. Here is FC2 official site.
    As of now, there is still a one-size-fits-all approach to female condoms.
    Opening width: 3.0″ / 76mm
    Length: 7.2″/ 185mm

    Non-latex Sex Dams

    Hot Dams!
    Made of polyurethane. These are the only non-latex we could find.  Do you know of other options (besides saran plastic wrap!).
    No flavor added.  Standard size.
    6″ X 8″/152mm X 203mm

    Dams and condoms are extra special when lubricant is involved.  Don’t forget to use this essential item.

    Confused about what condom width fits your penis girth? Simply divide you penis girth by 2.25 (penis girth/2.25 = condom width). Read how we got this formula.

    If you think we’ve missed a condom (or dam) or have questions please comment below. Follow us on Twitter – Facebook – G+ for updates.

  • SKYN Original Polyisoprene Condom Review

    SKYN Original Polyisoprene Condom Review

     

    Image from UndercoverCondoms.com
    Image from UndercoverCondoms.com

    SKYN Originals have been around a while now and seeing as I am involved in a condom blog I thought it was about time I actually tried the non-latex offering.  In fact, this is the first condom ever made from polyisoprene.

    I knew before I tried SKYN that they had advertised as the first and that this material was not latex rubber. However, I did have to ask the question What the f**k is polyisoprene? As it turns out, it is pretty much just rubber. It has very similar chemical structure, however, it’s synthetic and derives from petroleum rather than tress. It’s close enough that it’s sometimes referred to as ‘synthetic natural rubber’.

    Although very similar in structure to latex it’s a good alternative for those who have a latex allergy or if the smell and taste of latex repels you. However, it’s not so good if you are trying to ween off petroleum dependency.

    SKYN is part of the Lifestyle’s range in the USA and it can be found licensed for sale pretty much across the world including other brands such as Mates in the UK.

    Trying a new condom can be oddly nerve racking. A bad condom can break the moment which (of course) is much less of a problem than it actually breaking but still not the outcome one wants! Non-latex still hasn’t yet taken the mainstream market yet…perhaps because they are more expensive or because latex allergy is not very prominent. But one does not need allergies to enjoy these johnnies.

    Here’s My Review

    So unwrapping the SKYN, my partner and I were not totally sure what to expect.

    The moment was pretty much anti-climatic. Tearing open the wrapper, like Charlie looking for the golden ticket, we found simply a condom- a humble, transparent, normal looking rubbery lubricated condom. The condom rolled on very well. No drama. No talking points!

    From other reviews I’ve come across, I expected it to feel and sound like sandwich bag, but no. The condom felt great! If no one told me, I wouldn’t have been able to ousted it out as a latex imposter. As much as I could tell it felt the same as a perfectly fitting latex condom. If comparisons had to be drawn I would say it felt like regular Lifestyles Ultra Thin or Durex Love.

    Size wise it fit me great. The SKYN original is an average sized condom with a base width of 2.08”/53mm and a length: 7.5”/190mm. There is an XL and extra-lubricated version in the range so it may be worth picking up the multipack to get an idea of what works with you the best. In fact, this is the only non-latex XL condom available on the market!

    SKYN say that their condom is softer and more flexible than regular latex. While I can’t for sure say that is the case, I can say after a few uses I have experienced no comfort problems, neither has my partner. They roll on easily, fit well and don’t inhibit feeling during sex. Perfectly satisfied.

    I would say they are well worth a try!

    Some external links are affiliate links that help us pay for this site. This is not a condom company endorsement. All opinions shared are the author’s own.

  • GLYDE Vegan Condom Size Chart

    GLYDE Vegan Condom Size Chart

    Image from www.glydeamerica.com/
    Image from www.glydeamerica.com

    GLYDE has one major advantage on the market. These are the ONLY latex condoms and dams officially certified by the Vegan Society which means they are animal/dairy-free (no casein) and do not support animal testing. They’re also Fair Trade to help protect worker rights. Finally, GLYDE donates 15% of sales of its Red Ribbon condoms to AIDS councils (see GLYDE FAQ). So now you have even more reasons to feel great using these sex companions!

    GLYDE is a good option if you are sensitive to allergens. No gluten, paraben, spermicide, formaldehyde, talcum powder are used in the manufacturing process. The lubricant is silicon oil which is free of paraben and glycerin. Any water-based or oil-based lubricant is safe to use with GLYDE latex condoms and dams.

    Here we provide measurements for GYLDE. Most of the dimensions were found on the company website or by Undercover Condoms and Condom Jungle (UPDATE: Due to customer complaints, CondomJungle has stop supplying this brand).

    Dimensions are also listed on the packaging (would be nice if every company did that!). Some external links in this post are affiliate links that earn us a small commission.

    In general, GLYDE’s dimensions are between 7.1” (180mm) to 7.5 (190mm) long and 2.1” (53mm) to 2.2” (56mm) wide. This places GYLDE on the smaller end of “regular” condoms in the North American.

    For comparisons, check out our condom size calculator or fitting solutions guide list.

    GLYDE DAMS

    GLYDE Sheer Flavored Dental Dams
    More information on the importance of protected oral sex.
    Made From organic fruit extracts; no synthetic flavors
    100% vegan
    Ultra thin and smooth
    Flavors include Vanilla/crème, strawberry/pink, wildberry/purple, cola/black
    10” x 6”/25cm x 15cm

    MALE CONDOM

    SNUG Fit

    GLYDE Slimfit
    The most snug 100% vegan condom on the market
    Base width: 1.9”/49mm
    Length: 6.7”/170mm
    Comes in natural transparent color, red color, or strawberry flavor

    REGULAR Fit

    GLYDE Ultra Premium
    100% vegan natural latex
    Transparent color, cylinder straight shape
    Base width: 2.1”/ 53mm
    Length: 7.1”/ 180mm

    GLYDE Sheer Flavored Condoms
    From organic fruit extracts; no synthetic chemicals
    No chemicals, parabens or spermicide
    Base width: 2.1”/53mm
    Length: 7.1”/180mm

    Flavors include…
    GYLDE Ultra Vanilla    GLYDE Ultra Strawberry    GLYDE Ultra Blueberry
    GLYDE Ultra Wild Berry GLYDE Ultra Black Licorice/Cola

     

    Image from GLYDE Condoms FB Page
    Image from GLYDE Condoms FB Page

    GLYDE Sampler Pack
    Don’t be shy, give new condoms a try!
    Pack includes most popular flavors: GLYDE Ultra Vanilla, Strawberry, Blueberry, Wildberry and
    GLYDE Slimfit

    LARGE Fit

    GLYDE Maxi Premium
    This condom offers a little more length and width than regular condoms
    Base width: 2.2”/56mm
    Length: 7.8”/200mm

    There is also a Maxi Red. 15% of sales for GYLDE Red Ribbons are donated to AIDS councils.

    GLYDE SuperMax
    The largest vegan condom on the market!
    Base width: 2.36”/ 60mm
    Length: 7.87”/200mm
    (Super Max is not yet available to buy from N. America)

    GLYDE Non-Latex

    GLYDE Unique
    GLYDE’s non-latex male condoms
    Seems to be available to buy from Australia only.
    Base width: 2.36”/ 60mm
    Length: 6.7”/ 170mm
    We’re dubious about these measurements as we have never seen such vast proportion of length and width before. Dimensions provided by GetPrice.com.au. If these measurements are true, this is the shortest, fattest condom available! We recommend contacting the manufacturer directly.

    Stay Updated!

    This size chart will be updated regularly and we will post as soon as more Glyde products become available in North America.  Follow us on twitter @condommonologue, like us on www.facebook.com/CondomMonologues, or sign up to our RSS feed.  You can always shoot us a question in the comment section below.

    Let us know what you think!  Have you tried Glyde condoms?

  • Caution Wear Condom Size Chart

    Caution Wear Condom Size Chart

    Image from UndercoverCondoms.com
    Image from UndercoverCondoms.com

    Caution Wear Corp is a relatively new American company- formed in New Hampshire in 2004.  They follow the “safety first” motto by making condoms slightly thicker and with a 100% manufacture guarantee.  So, if a condom breaks you can return the box for a full refund (not the used condom, of course!).

    All Caution Wears are straight classic shape.  No funky flares or twists. The average size of these condoms is Flat width = 2.0” and Length = 7.0”, making Caution Wear a bit shorter than other leading US brands like Trojan, Durex, Lifestyles and Kimono (links to sizes charts).  Caution Wear makes one of the smallest condom on the North American market- Iron Grip– which we found to be the same dimensions as Durex Enhanced Pleasure (Flat width = 1.92”/Length = 6.7”). For more variety, check out Lucky Bloke’s smaller condom sample pack.

    On the larger side: unlike other large condom that are both longer and wider than regulars, Caution Wear Grande maintains the same 7.0” length but is wider.  This is ideal for thicker than average men who aren’t particularly long.

    If you don’t feel like scrolling through lists and want brand comparisons, check out our Condom Size Calculator!

    Now, onto the size chart

    Some links in this post are affiliate links that earn us a small commission. This is not a company endorsement.

    Snug Fit/Latex

    iron gripCaution Wear Iron Grip

    One of the smallest latex condoms on the market.
    Base width: 1.92”/49mm
    Length: 6.7”/170mm
    Head width: .6”/15mm

    Large Fit/Latex

    Caution Wear Grande

    Caution Wear’s largest condom (wider than regular condoms, but regular length).
    Base width: 2.2”/56mm
    Length: 7.0”/180mm

    Regular/Latex

    Caution Wear Black Ice Ultra Thin

    Caution Wears’ thinnest condom (slightly thicker than other brands of thin condoms)
    Base width: 2.0”/53mm
    Length: 7.0”/180mm

    Caution Wear Wild Rose Ribbed

    Ribbed straight shaped condom
    Base width: 2.0”/53mm
    Length: 7.0”/180mm

    Caution Wear Classic Plain (a.k.a. PPE for “Premium Protection Everytime”)

    Silicon-based Lubricant, straight shaped, clear color condom
    Base width: 2.0”/53mm
    Length: 7.0/180mm
    Head width: .6”/15mm

    Caution Wear Slippery When Wet

    Classic fit condom with double, silicon-based lubrication
    Base width: 2.0”/53mm
    Length: 7.0/180mm

    Mint Delight

    Lubricated, flavored condom.
    Base width: 2.0”/53mm
    Length: 7.0”/180mm

    Caution Wear Variety Pack

    Contains 3 of Caution Wear variety: Ultra Thin, Ribbed and Classic Plain.
    Experimenting is the best way to find the right condom!
    Base width: 2.0”/53mm
    Length: 7.0”/180mm

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    Confused about what condom width will fit?  We recommend dividing you penis girth by 2.25 (penis circumference / 2.25 = condom width). Here we explain where these numbers comes from.

    Our size charts constantly updated, so please join our Facebook, Twitter or RSS feed to keep informed.

    The Legal Stuff: Age of consent and medical advice

    The size charts are made for you to consult and hopefully find the brand that suits within your size range and needs. If you cannot find the answer to your question, just ask in the comments below. But please be aware that we do not condone sexual activity of under-age persons in state or country. Also, we are not medical professionals. We offer opinions from personal experience and research. Professional advice should always be sought.

  • Walking While Trans: police profiling and abuse of LGBTQ communities of color in Queens

    Walking While Trans: police profiling and abuse of LGBTQ communities of color in Queens

    LGBTQ 003.  In this entry of our LGBTQ-Logue Initiative, posting mementos of sexual justice issues, we share narratives from participants in a study about the gender-based violence that police regularly commit against LGBTQ and gender nonconforming people.

    Illustration by Molly Crabapple.  Posted with permission. Found on Vice Mag.
    Illustration by Molly Crabapple. Posted with permission. Found on Vice Mag.

    In response to the rise of complaints about hate violence and police abuse against LGBTQ people in Jackson Heights, especially among people of color, the community-based organization Make the Road NY (MRNY) and the Anti-Violence Project (AVP) conducted a preliminary study to ascertain the extent of the problems with police. Between 2011 and 2012, MRNY and AVP collected over 300 surveys with LGBTQ and gender nonconforming people in Jackson Heights.  Interviews were conducted by outreach workers and volunteers through street, bar, and nightclub outreach, as well as within support groups and community meetings.

    They found that LGBTQ, and transgender respondents in particular, reported higher rates of police stops compared to non-LBGTQ respondents.  Transgender residents of color were the most likely to experience police harassment and physical abuse when stopped.  46% of transgender respondents reported some form of physical abuse from police compared to 28% of non-LGBTQ respondents.  Narrative evidence obtained through interviews reveals the kind of physical harassment experienced such as handling, pushing, shoving and sexual harassment.

    These are not just selective, one-off narrative accounts.  On the contrary, they are shared because they reflect general tends respondents experience with the NYPD in Queens.

    Carolina describes being intrusively searched by police:

    About 2 years ago something terrible happened when I was out in Jackson Heights. My girlfriend and I were on our way to a club when the police stopped us.  It was about midnight. The police stopped us and asked for our IDs.  My girlfriend had hers but I didn’t have mine with me at the time. At that moment the police started to frisk me and search my pants.  Because I dress very masculine they started telling me to ‘shut up you fucking dyke.’ They started to feel my breasts and search in that area (they were male cops and they’re not suppose to do that). They then proceeded to put me against the wall and told me to spread my legs.  They searched me between my legs like I was a criminal. I told them that I didn’t consent to their search.  But they said that they were ‘the authority’ and that they could do ‘whatever the fuck they wanted’ with me. I felt humiliated because I knew that even if I said something no one would believe me.  Also, because of my immigration status I was afraid to say anything and get deported.- Lesbian woman, Jackson Heights (MRNY 2012, pg. 20)

    Another interviewee, Juan, reported being drag by her hair down the block.

    I was walking down the street with my partner on 34th Avenue and a police car pulled over and told us to get near the car.  When the police officer saw that I was dressed as a woman he pulled my wig, held my hair and dragged me down 34th Avenue for 1 or 2 blocks. – Gay Latino man who cross dresses at night, Queens (Ibid: pg. 20).

    Other narratives reflect violence committed by police and the unjust treatment carried out while in custody.

    I was getting out of a club and heading to a friend’s house in a cab.  When I got to her apartment, I found that the police were stopping her and asking her to produce ID. They were talking to her in English. I intervened and told the officers that she didn’t speak English and that her ID was in her apartment, which we were in front of. I told them that I could get her ID from her apartment. The officers told me to shut up and arrested both me and my friend. The police used a lot of force while arresting us and said some homophobic and transphobic remarks in the process.  They put us in the back of their car and started laughing at us with other police officers who were also there.  I asked one of the officers to please open the window a bit more because we were out of breath, to which he responded by pepper spraying my directly in my face and mouth. Since we were trapped in the back of the car, the pepper spray also started asphyxiating my friend. I started kicking the car door and asking them to please let us out.  They opened the door and dragged me out of the car and started beating me up outside the car, while using transphobic and homophobic remarks. It was a very confusing, demeaning and unjust experience, I ended up being in jail for two days without representation and was intensely harassed by officers while I was in custody.- Transgender Latina woman, Queens (Ibid: pg. 18).

    Part of that harassment involves arbitrary stops on suspicion of prostitution, which takes place in the form of a charge of “loitering for the purpose of prostitution”- a misdemeanor that allows for broad officer discretion.  The profiling of transgender women as sex workers is so common that there is a term for it: “walking while trans”.

    Arrests can be made on the basis of how tight one’s clothing is and how many condoms are on the person, which will be used as evidence in court.  If convicted for prostitution, the person will lose social benefits like food stamps and subsidized housing.  As a result, transgender women are especially fearful that any condom in their possession will be used as evidence against them.

    The survey participants commonly reported stops that seemed to be without basis but in which the police officers later justified the stop by charging the person with prostitution because condoms were found on their person.

    Cristina explained how the police did not believe that her boyfriend was not a patron and the officers confiscated three condoms off of her.

    One night I was with my boyfriend at a club in Jackson Heights, Queens.  At around 4am we left the club together and walked home. We were walking next to each other. At one point an undercover police van stopped next to us.  Eight undercover cops got out from the van and some of them threw me against the wall. While they were handcuffing me, my boyfriend was also through to the wall and they frisked him. They told me I was being arrested for sex work. I told them that I was not doing anything like that. After they frisked my boyfriend, they frisked me and found three condoms, after seeing the condoms they asked if I was sure that I was not working.  I told them that I was with my boyfriend and they said that he was not my boyfriend. I told one of the female cops to help me and that I was not doing anything wrong. She said that she couldn’t help me out. My boyfriend came to the 110th Precinct where I was held and spoke to the captain; he tried to explain that I was his girlfriend and that I was with him. But the captain said that he couldn’t do anything. I was taken to court and was accused of sex work.– Transgender woman, Jackson Heights (Ibid: pg 21).

    Another interviewee describes being jumped by undercover cops and experiencing repetitive humiliation and harassment while in custody:

    Last week, I went out dancing at a small night club on Roosevelt Avenue.  After having a good time and feeling ready to go home, I contacted my friends so that we could meet at a small taqueria before we all headed home.  Meeting up at the taqueria after a night out is routine for us because the tacos are really good, and it’s also the only way we know that our circle of friends is safe.

    While on my way to the taqueria, I was approached by a dark colored car driven by a middle-aged male.  As the male pulled alongside me, he said something I couldn’t hear properly.  As I did not hear what the male was saying, I inched a little closer to his vehicle and he repeated, ‘Why are you so beautiful and yet alone?’ Before I knew it, two undercover officers jumped out of a van that was parked along the street and told me that I was under arrest.  When I asked the officer’s why they are arresting me, they told that I was ‘engaging in prostitution’.

    They cuffed me and the officers questioned me further, took my purse away from me and placed me into the unmarked van.  Although I had nothing on me and did nothing wrong, they still took me, transferred me into another police van filled with about a dozen trans-women and then took us all down to the 115th Precinct where we were fingerprinted, written up and later transferred to the central booking.  My experience in the holding cell at central booking was terrible.  I was humiliated inside of the holding cell by the guards and the men who occupied the cell with me.  The guards would not all me anything other than bread and water to eat and I was not allowed to use the toilet when I needed to go.  Tears streamed down my face as for the first time I was encountering the daily harassment that transwomen face for just walking home.-Transgender Latina woman, Queens (Ibid: pg. 17).

    And it doesn’t just happen at night after clubbing.  It also happens while doing routine daily activities such as walking the dog or grocery shopping.  Here is just one testimony of many from the MRNY study.

    I am transgender.  I was walking to the store near my house on Roosevelt Avenue when two cops stopped and arrested me.  When I asked why I was being arrested, they replied, ‘Because you are pretty.’ They charged me with loitering for prostitution when I was only walking down the street.- Transgender Latina woman, Queens (Ibid: pg. 17)

    This profiling and abuse has been documented extensively across the US by Amnesty International (2005), the PROS Network (2011) and Human Rights Watch (2012), to name a few.  All studies conclude that there needs to be more done within the legal system and law enforcement culture to address homophobic and transphobic attitudes and discriminatory policing against LBGTQ people.  Suggestions include LGBTQ liaison units to police forces and integrating LGBTQ issues into officer education and professional development.

    There is also a bill to end the use of condoms as evidence of sex work.  Since 1999, a coalition of people in the sex trades, allies, and community-based organizations have been working to pass the No Condoms As Evidence bill into law in NY state.  In 2012, a report by the PROS Network and Sex Worker Project revealed how the use of condoms as evidence of prostitution is creating a public health crisis because it is deterring targeted populations from carrying condoms.  This is “deeply concerning”, writes Emma Caterine of the Red Umbrella Project, as people in the sex trade and gender nonconforming people are often most at risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections. “To combat this violence and promote safer sex, we must stop the use of condoms as evidence by both police and prosecutors (RH Reality Check, 2013).”

    On April 23rd, 2013, Red Umbrella Project will be lobbying in Albany, NY to get the No Condoms as Evidence bill passed by representatives.  For more information on this bill and how you can get involved, check out their website.

  • What Condom Size Am I?

    What Condom Size Am I?

    The reason so many guys ask, What Condom Size Am I? is because condom sizing and how to measure ourselves is not very clear.  There is no such thing as one-size fits every individual or couple.

    And yet using the right condom is essential.  The wrong size increases the risk of breakage, slippage and discomfort.  Experimenting and finding the correct condom is the difference between those who enjoy sex with condoms and those who hate them and use them inconsistently, putting themselves and others at risk of STIs and unwanted pregnancy.

    Published with permission from thebadchemicals.com
    Published with permission from thebadchemicals.com

    What Condom Size Am I?

    The first thing you need to do is measure the size of your penis. This isn’t hard (but your penis must be to get correct measurements!).  There are three main measurements you need to take. First, from the base of your penis which is the part where the condom would stop rolling (no need to put the condom over your testicles!) and measure up to the tip of your penis….This is your length.

    Then measure the girth of your penis at the mid-point of the shaft. You can wrap a tape measure around the shaft or you can use a string and then measure the string with a ruler.

    Most condom widths are measured by the condom laying flat (it is not the circumference). Condoms are designed to fit securely while forming the body shape. The base width should be less than half the girth of your penis size by about half an inch (13mm). Therefore to know if your girth will fit a condom width simply divide your penis circumference by 2.25 (In this post we explain how we got this formula).

    (Most links are internal links to our site.  External links to condoms may be affiliate links that earn us a small commission. This is not a company endorsement). 

    What Sizes Exist?

    Now you have the measurements you can go over to our Condom Size Calculator. There you will find measurements for each condom brand and be able to find your size and compare what exactly “Snug” “Regular” and “Large” mean.  We also offer updated size charts based on the top sold brands: Trojan Condom, Lifestyles, Durex, KimonoONE Condoms and Caution Wear. More brands to come!ruler

    The average condom length in North America…

    is 7.5″/190.5mm.  Since a vast portion of men are between 5.1″ – 6.5″, most do not need to be concern with length.  If length is your concern, check out our condom fitting solutions chart for recommendations to specific needs.

    Girth or “thickness” is crucial.  The average condom is made to fit a 4.8″- 5.2″ erect circumference.  In condom terms, that equals approximately 2.0″/50.8mm-2.2″/55.8mm base wide (remember, width is measured by the condom lying flat).

    General, rule of thumb: If you measure less than 4.8 inches girth, go with a snugger fit.  Fit you are greater than 5.2 inches, select large condoms, such as SKYN Large, Durex XXL, and Magnums.

    Shape Matters

    However, this does not solve all problems.  What if you are skinny and long, short and wide?  You will also need to think about shape and material (latex, polyisoprene, etc.), especially if you find you’re in between sizes.

    A common complaint is that condoms are too tight around the head.  So, many condoms companies have now designed condoms with oversized head room, including flair shape design and extra bulbous head.  Here are the top North American brands:

    LifeStyles Pleasure Shape (Bulbous head)
    LifeStyles WYLD (Bulbous head)
    LifeStyles THYN (Flare shape)
    Trojan Her Pleasure (Flare shape)
    Trojan Pleasures Ecstasy Fire and Ice (Flare shape)
    Trojan Stimulations Ecstasy (Tapered flare)
    Trojan Magnum (Tapered at the base, flare at head)
    ONE Condom Pleasure Plus (Roomy pouch at the head)
    ONE Condom Tantric Pleasures (Wider base/head, tapered along the shaft)
    ONE Condom Pleasure Dome (oversized head, regular base width)
    Durex PleasureMAX (wider base and head)
    Kimono Maxx (Wider head)

    Remember, you can find exact measurements for each condom on their respective size charts or on our condom size calculator.

    There are also condoms which are longer than average, but regular or smaller width.

    Trojan Supra
    Trojan ThinTensity (slightly longer and wider; not as big as Magnums).
    Durex Sensi Thin (longer and slightly narrow than regulars).

    Or how about wider shaft, but close fitting head:

    Lifestyles 3SUM

    Elasticity.  Latex or Poly or the other Poly?

    There are two new non-latex options available now.  Polyurethane was first introduced by Durex in the 1990s.  This material is less elastic than latex and polyisoprene, and is slightly thinner.  So it can be ideal for those who prefer less skin-tight condoms that clings to every contour of his tool, and instead prefer a bit of give in the condom.

    The most popular polyurethane condom in North America is Trojan Supra.

    Polyisoprene is the latest non-latex material for male condoms, introduced by Lifestyles in 2008.  This material is more soft, elastic and form-fitting than both polyurethane and latex.  This material is ideal because it can stretch more comfortably over shapely parts of the penis.  So this may be a better option if you are in between sizes then the uniquely shaped condoms.  Polyisoprene is available in North America by Durex Avanti Bare and Lifestyles SKYN.

    Practice Makes Perfect!

    The best thing to do is keep experimenting to find the best condoms for you (and your partners).

    Just make sure you don’t engage in oral or penetrative sex if a condom does not fit! So, firstly, answer the question “What Condom Size Am I?” for yourself and then check against the size charts and get a hold of your best fit.

    Let us know if you have any questions at all and we will always do our best to fully answer them. Don’t be embarrassed.  Use a fake name if you really need to. We will never judge you for your questions.

    Thanks for reading and we hope this article helped.

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